Gushimira bigira ingaruka nziza kumyitwarire yacu - reka tuvugishe ukuri, twongere kwifata, kandi tunoze imikorere yacu n'imibanire yumuryango.

Kubwibyo, ushobora gutekereza ko ntekereza ko Thanksgiving ari umwe muminsi yingenzi yumwaka.Nyuma ya byose, niba inyungu zo gushimira ari nyinshi

kumunsi runaka, bigomba kuba umunsi mukuru wigihugu washyizweho kugirango ugaragaze amarangamutima nkaya.

Ariko mvugishije ukuri, gushimira ni uguta kuri Thanksgiving.Ntunyumve nabi: Nkunda injyana n'imigenzo gakondo yumunsi nkabandi bose.

Nibintu gusa bituma Thanksgiving iba nziza cyane - kubana nabavandimwe ninshuti, umwanya udafite akazi, no kwishimira indukiya idasanzwe

ifunguro rya nimugoroba - ibyo bituma Thanksgiving idakenewe.

Imwe mumigambi yibanze yo gushimira nukudufasha gushiraho umubano ukomeye nabandi.Ubushakashatsi bwa psychologue Sara Algoe bwerekana ko iyo dushimiye

kubitekerezo byabandi, twibwira ko bishobora kuba byiza kurushaho gusobanukirwa.Gushimira bidutera gutera intambwe yambere yo kubaka umubano

hamwe n'abantu batazi.Nitumara kumenya abandi neza, gushimira guhoraho bizashimangira isano yacu nabo.Gushimira ubufasha bwabandi

bituma turushaho kugira ubushake bwo gufasha abantu tutazi - psychologue Monica Bartlett yavumbuye iki kintu - gituma abandi bashaka

kutumenya.

Ariko iyo twicaye kumeza yo gushimira hamwe nabavandimwe ninshuti, mubisanzwe ntabwo dushaka abandi nkana kandi dushiraho umubano mushya.

Kuri uyumunsi, twabanye nabantu dukunda.

Kugira ngo bisobanuke neza, simvuze ko bidakwiye gufata umwanya wo gutekereza no kwerekana ko dushimira ibintu byiza mubuzima.Iki nigikorwa cyiza rwose.

Ariko duhereye kubumenyi bwa siyansi - kubaho k'amarangamutima bizamura ibyemezo n'imyitwarire yacu kugirango biteze imbere muburyo bwihariye - inyungu

yo gushimira akenshi biba bidafite akamaro kumunsi iyo bigaragajwe cyane.

Dore urundi rugero.Ubushakashatsi bwanjye muri laboratoire bwerekana ko gushimira bifasha kuba inyangamugayo.Mugihe abo dukorana twasabye abantu gutanga raporo niba

igiceri bajugunye mwiherero cyari cyiza cyangwa kibi (bivuze ko bazabona amafaranga menshi), abashimye (mukubara umunezero wabo)

kimwe cya kabiri gusa gishobora gushuka nkabandi.Tuzi uwashutse kuko igiceri cyagenewe guhangana

Gushimira kandi bituma turushaho gutanga: mubushakashatsi bwacu, iyo abantu bagize amahirwe yo kugabana amafaranga nabantu batazi, twasanze abo

bashimye bazagabana 12% mugereranije.

Ku munsi wo gushimira, ariko, kuriganya no kwinangira ntabwo mubyaha byacu.(Keretse niba ubara ko nariye cyane kuri nyirasenge Donna wuzuye.)

Kwifata birashobora kandi kunozwa binyuze mu gushimira.Jye na bagenzi banjye twasanze abantu bashimira badakunze gukora imari idahwitse

guhitamo - bafite ubushake bwo kwihanganira inyungu zizaza, aho kurarikira inyungu nto.Uku kwifata birareba no kurya:

nkuko ibyavuye mu by'imitekerereze ya muntu Sonja Lyubomirsky na bagenzi be babigaragaza, abantu bashima birashoboka cyane kurwanya ibiryo bitameze neza.

Ariko kuri Thanksgiving, kwifata rwose ntabwo aribyo.Ntamuntu ukeneye kwiyibutsa kuzigama amafaranga menshi kuri konte yizabukuru;Amabanki

zarafunzwe.Usibye, niba ntashobora kurya byinshi byimbuto ya Amy kumunsi wo gushimira, nzategereza ryari?

Gushimira nabyo bituma dukora neza.Abashinzwe imitekerereze ya muntu Adam Grant na Francesca Gino basanze iyo abayobozi bagaragaje ko bashimira akazi katoroshye

y'abakozi mu ishami rishinzwe gutera inkunga, imbaraga zabo zikora ziyongera gitunguranye 33%.Kugaragaza ishimwe ryinshi mubiro nabyo biri hafi

bijyanye no kunyurwa nakazi keza no kwishima.

Na none, gushimira kwose ni byiza.Ariko keretse niba ari inganda za serivisi, ntushobora gukora kuri Thanksgiving.

Ndashaka kwerekana indi nyungu yo gushimira: irashobora kugabanya gukunda ubutunzi.Ubushakashatsi bwakozwe na psychologue Nathaniel Lambert bwerekana ko kuba byinshi

gushimira ntabwo bizamura abantu kunyurwa mubuzima gusa, ahubwo bizanagabanya ubushake bwo kugura ibintu.Ubu bushakashatsi burahuye nubushakashatsi

ya psychologue Thomas Gilovich, yerekana ko abantu bakunda gushimira cyane kumarana nabandi kuruta impano zihenze.

Ariko kuri Thanksgiving, kwirinda kugura impulse mubisanzwe ntabwo ari ikibazo kinini.(Ariko vendredi y'umukara bukeye ni ikindi kibazo.)

Kubwibyo, mugihe wowe nabawe mukoraniye hamwe kumunsi wogushimira uyumwaka, uzasanga umunezero wuyu munsi - ibiryo biryoshye, umuryango

n'inshuti, amahoro yo mumutima - biroroshye kubigeraho.Tugomba guhurira ku wa kane wa kane Ugushyingo kugira ngo duhumurize kandi twisanzure.

Ariko muyindi minsi 364 yumwaka - iminsi ushobora kumva ufite irungu, uhangayitse kukazi, urujijo kubeshya cyangwa utuntu duto, uhagarika kwihingamo gushimira

Bizakora itandukaniro rinini.Gushimira ntibishobora kuba umwanya wo gushimira, ariko gushimira kuminsi iyindi birashobora kugufasha kwemeza ko ushobora kubona

ibintu byinshi byo gushimira mugihe kizaza.